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Divorce Makes You Look Older While Facial Exercise Lifts Your Face

December 30th, 2009 by admin | No Comments | Filed in Celebrity Divorces

Margie thought her marriage would last forever; whenever she heard or read statistics concerning divorce, she brushed them aside never believing for one moment that she would ever find her husband boring or inattentive to the point that she would even consider divorce, let alone become a divorcee.

Over the years Margie noticed she smiled less and less, her eyes no longer held a twinkle and the level of fun in her life greatly subsided.  Oh sure, she had special times with her grandchildren, her girlfriends and her children but she noticed she had long felt bored, indifferent with life in general and even restless toward her husband.   

Realizing that she could easily give up on their once very meaningful relationship, she knew the word “divorce” could indeed become a reality.  Could she handle living life on her own?

Divorce, according to the Holmes-Rahe Scale, is the second most stress filled life event, just shy of losing a prized possession such as a child or a spouse.  

Separation can mean loss of job, the end of a friendship, the failure of a relationship.  Sometimes emotional trauma can turn our smiles upside down as we wear the look of sadness and separation on our faces. Divorce, death, disappointment and other feelings that harbor resentment, anger and bitterness can age us quickly.

Unfortunately this is a type of mental programming that produces physical displays such as down turned mouths, tired looking eyes, a lack of radiance and even illness. Our bruised psyche and emotions are typically visible in our faces.  Witness a long-time girlfriend showing up for lunch, down in the mouth and mad as heck - we see her frustration on her face as we query, “What’s up with you?!?”

Sometimes women give up when they experience loss and defeat; there are some women who live like there is no failure.

Which one are you?

Getting on track again is the goal when you are ready for change.  Change your thinking, change your life.  If you allow fear to keep you stuck in an unhappy, dismal place this, too, can age our faces quickly. Couple fear and vulnerability with antidepressants that are typically prescribed when one is feeling blue and you have the recipe for an old looking appearance.

Living life on purpose using facial exercise breaks the ice around your heart. 

Face work, mirror work, positive thoughts and affirmations can change your attitude and the shape and contour of your face.

Yes, facial plastic surgery and injections that plump and paralyze are easily accessible avenues if you are looking old and tired but remember these avenues have consequences.  Some of them can be dire.

It is in your best interest for optimum health and fiscal responsibility that makes facial exercise so attractive.  Using only your thumbs and fingers in white cotton gloves while facing your mirror, you quickly see results that demonstrate how easy it is to maintain your face with simple exercise movements.

It is no secret that using extraneous modalities can certainly make you look different but even injections can make you look overdone, even matronly.    

Surely you have seen celebrity faces that have been shot full of chemicals that were intended to plump up lines and wrinkles and instead of seeing a youthful face, a full face appears that is devoid of natural contour.  

Paralyzing injections also have their drawbacks; watching an actress’s immobile face is one thing but seeing a face whose forehead does not move or eyes that no longer portray expression, live and in person is very telling.   Add nips ‘n’ tucks and you have the recipe for a misshapen, hardly recognizable face.

Most treatments are expensive, temporary and only mask facial aging symptoms.   Injections, surgery, laser treatments, facials and peels and electro-stimulation devices do not address the underlying cause of aging in your face. 

Facial exercise gets to the root cause of saggy skin and droopy facial features.  Facial muscles support the skin and when they are exercised skin becomes radiant and flushed with oxygenated blood.  The fingers and thumbs anchor tiny muscles so that they can tighten and lift.

Looking healthy, looking your best doesn’t have to involve risk, pain or a lot of money.  You can take control of your face without cutting or suturing or injecting any foreign substances that might have long-term side effects when you choose muscle retraining movements.

Imagine that you look ten to fifteen years younger, portraying a prettier, lifted face without the hassle of time away from friends and family, the risk of infection or other horrors or even the embarrassment of a botched procedure.

Using natural facial rehabilitation methods boosts your confidence because you are in charge.  You won’t have to worry about breaking the bank or putting your beautiful face in harm’s way. 

Feeling good about you no matter if there is a significant other in the picture or not is the priceless payoff.

 

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Marriage Problem - is Divorce the Best Option?

December 27th, 2009 by admin | No Comments | Filed in Celebrity Divorces

For many in our country, divorce is not a choice, but a tragedy that has struck and destroyed hope and happiness. Many people will be able to identify with more than the mere statistics, but also with the trauma associated with divorce.

The question is who suffers most when divorce occurs? The man, wife or the Children? Are you considering possible divorce or are you already facing this ugly monster? Possible living in little hell. It is hell when couples living under the same roof are not in harmony and peace. When quarrel and shouting becomes the order of the day. When the wife and husband maintain two different kitchens. When fear, suspicion, and insecurity becomes trade mark. “Widow Hood is far better than broken home”

Before considering divorce, look at the following:

1. Pause a bit and consider the first night both of you met. Remember the sweet moments both of you shared. There are always sweet memories in every marriage. Sweet memories are not always forgotten.                                                                                                        2. No matter how bad a person is (husband or wife) there is always a good aspect of that person. Take it or leave it your partner have affected your life in one way or the other. It is not always bad, bad, bad situation. That is why when people re-marry you still live to cast your mind back over some good moments. How do you feel when you set eyes on your ex husband or wife? You feel like coming together again.                                                                      3. Consider the emotional trauma your children will go through. Don’t sacrifice the joy and happiness of your children at the expense of your misunderstanding. Do you consider the happiness and security of any child when he or she stays happily with their parents? What an ugly atmosphere of loneliness when they cannot reach their mother or father?                         4. Consider also the broken heart, confusion, lack of peace and fulfillment the woman will go through.                                                                                                                          5. How are you sure that the next wife or husband you are going to marry will not even worst than the present one you are proposing to divorce.                                                              6. The issue of marriage problem can only be best understood by both parties. Third party can never and will never understand the intricacies surrounding the relationship. During any wedding, people gather to celebrate with you but after the wedding you are left alone within the four corners of your room. What goes on within that room is best known or well understood by both of you.

It is only you can resolve the crisis. How? Drop your pride and see things the way it is. Don’t pretend it. Face the reality. Who suffers most? There is an adage that says “when two elephant fights it is the grass that suffers”. Everybody in that relationship suffers but the children and mother suffers most. The marriage can be healed no matter how sour it is. I know a doctor who specializes in healing broken lives, marriages, situations. If you can drop your pride and turn everything to this Doctor, he will bring back new life into the marriage. (John 2: 1-11). By Nicholas Anyanwu Visit: http://www.discussthatproblem.blogspot.com http://www.mydaddyisrich.com

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Divorce is not the Answer: Tips for Blissful Relationships

December 25th, 2009 by admin | No Comments | Filed in Celebrity Divorces

Life is very simple, but it has been made complicated by human beings. There are no rules and regulations on how to lead a happy and contented life. They vary from person to person and differ from situation to situation. People believe marriages are made in heaven and realised on earth. Then why are there mismatches? Why are there quarrels between spouses? Why divorce? There are no straight answers to such questions. Some people have mental problems, some suffer from ailments, some are in depression. Why?

Because, at some time or other, we have flouted the rules of nature. This might partially answer - why we are not happy and why marriages are not perfect.

When two individuals, who either know or do not know each other are bound by the rituals of marriage, there are bound to exist differences of opinion. Nature has not made us all alike. Even the carbon copy of the “rainbow cat” cloned with the same DNA, is not exactly the same as the original.

So, one is living in a fool’s paradise - if one expects to find a perfectly hamonious spouse.

Divorces often take place for petty issues. For example:

1) Your spouse has the habit of not cleaning the hairbrush.

2) Your spouse throws dirty clothes allover the place, instead of putting them in the washing machine.

3) Your wife likes to spend time at kitty parties and attending club functions.

4) Your husband is in the habit of spending time gossiping and drinking - after office hours and then coming.

5) Your spouse forgets to inform you and is absent from predetermined functions.

6) Your spouse does not pay much attention to the children.

7) Your husband never volunteers to bathe, dress, and teach them.


8) Your spouse is more worried about his or her parents and siblings, than about the home.

9) Your husband thinks - it is your duty to look after the children, keep the home neat and tidy, provide sumptuous meals and be a good wife in bed.

10) On the other hand, you are a good mother, and a good daughter but not a good housewife.

11) You crib that your husband is a good father, a good son, a good brother, a good friend and a good social worker, but not a good husband.

Besides this, your spouse may have the habit of snoring, forgetting to flush the toilet, not remembering birthdays or marriage anniversaries etc. The list may go on. Anyway, these are petty issues, but they need to be dealt with. Otherwise, they will grow into mountains and be impossible to deal with.

If one keeps one’s cool, they will appear petty issues. There are easy ways to sort them out. For instance, if your wife has forgotten to clean the comb or a hair-brush, you clean it. It takes just 5 seconds and you can bring it to her notice, in a subtle way, by saying, “Darling, you are losing too much hair. Today, when I cleaned your hairbrush, I found so much.” She will get the point and be grateful to you for showing concern, at her losing hair.

LIFE IS A MIXED BAG

Similarly, to get your husband out of the habit of leaving dirty linen all over the place, wait for the time when he does not find his favourite shirt or tie, which is lying in a corner or under the bed. Search for it, find it and give it to him, then tell him to put dirty clothes in the washing machine - to avoid such situations in future.

One must understand that life is not a bed of roses - but neither is it full of thorns. It is a mixture of both and it depends upon the individual, whether he or she finds roses or thorns.

Leading a happy married life is an art. It is the art of compromising. If the man might have wanted a Lindsay Lohan or Angelina Jolie as his wife, the woman might have longed for a handsome, obedient and loyal husband. But, in real life, we don’t always get what we want. However, one can transform an ordinary girl or boy into one of his or her liking, through understanding.

First of all, when you accept a person as your life partner, start off by loving him or her. Love not only the person’s good qualities but also his or her shortcomings. Love means loving a person as a whole and not in parts. Praise the good qualities and bring to his or her notice the shortcomings in a subtle way. Everyone makes mistakes, so there is no point in losing one’s cool over a petty issue. Normally, we do not notice a plus point in our spouse, but we are in the habit of highlighting shortcomings.

Marilgu Ruman says, “People like other people, who make them feel good about themselves.” Never try to prove that you are more intelligent or smart than your spouse. If your spouse is lacking in anything, it is your duty to bring him or her up to your level. Love is not only to gain materially, it is also for giving love, affection and kindness.

When you are unhappy with your spouse, is divorce the answer? Should you divorce in the hope of getting a better partner? No! For all you know, your new partner may be worse than the previous one. Most of the time, people just trade one problem with another - like trading tooth trouble for knee trouble!

Your present spouse may snore, the next one may not snore but may keep you awake throughout the night, surfing the internet and then sleep the whole day. So, divorce is not the way to get a good life partner. One must introspect prior to blaming the partner, for a bumpy ride. If the following factors are taken care of, the question of divorce will not arise:

WORKAHOLIC

Many of us give priority to our work vis-a-vis our spouse and , children. Keeping the boss happy and getting promotions is not life. Life is much more than that.

If you neglect your spouse and children to such an extent that you do not remember their birthdays etc, then you do not exist for them. They learn to live without you. So, when you need them after retirement, they will distance themselves from you, think of you as an unwanted member of the family, and wish you could keep working.

So, with whom are you going to celebrate your happiness? Happiness is multiplied by sharing. If there is no one to share it with, you will become depressed. So try to balance work with family life.

NEEDS

One must have an eye for the needs of one’s spouse. Married life, is not a one-way traffic. The marriage cart not only needs two wheels, it needs synchronised movement too. Frank Pittman says, “There is no way to win against your spouse, you both win or both lose.” Men and women have different needs. As per L. Abrahamian, for men sexual fulfilment, recreational companionship, admiration and domestic support, top the list. Those for women are affection, conversation, honesty, openness, financial support, and family commitment.

Most men think that women will be happy by merely getting good clothes, ornaments and a lot of money, but as per their priority, money comes last but one. Men talk the entire day in office, but when they come home, they become mute spectators. For women, conversation is the second highest priority.

BE PRACTICAL

Do not imagine that your spouse will be ideal. Any fool can love a beautiful/handsome spouse, who is perfect but one who loves, in spite of a lot of short comings, makes life more meaningful and happy. Most of us search for a dark spot in a white sheet, instead of looking at the entire white sheet itself. So do not keep searching for short-comings, as all of us have them in plenty. Look for virtues, which will make you as well as your spouse - happy and life wonderful. Do not keep on fighting over petty issues. A successful marriage is not one in which there are no fights, but one, in which fights are turned into opportunities for greater honesty and understanding.

SEPARATION

Too much of togetherness breeds contempt. So one must look for opportunities to create space. It is advisable for the husband and wife to stay away from each other, for a month or two in a year. Once the spouse is away, the value of that person, will dawn on the other. This may be the reason why 90 per cent couples in the armed forces remain happy and contented, as, forced separation take place. Earlier, in the joint family system, separation was ensured, because the wife would go to her parents for festivals and ceremonies. So it felt as if each reunion was a second honeymoon.

HEALTH

Men take care of their health by playing outdoor games and going to the gym, but they fail to ensure good health for their spouses. By resorting to simple exercises, one can keep away diseases like BP, diabetes, arthritis, asthma and even Parkinson’s disease. It does not need a very great effort, to take your spouse for a walk. It will also strengthen the bond between you. Exercise also helps maintain one’s vitality level, so that sexual needs are also looked after. Though love is not sex alone, sex is one of the important ingredient of a happy married life.

For maintaining one’s health, one can practise yoga. The latest findings are that, if couples are sexually active, their health is generally good. There is sex therapy to treat depression, weak heart muscles, low backache, etc. So, by routine exercise, one can kill two birds with one stone - ensure good health and enjoy sex also.

EGO CLASH

Marriage thrives on love, compassion and consideration. The biggest culprit in destroying amicable, friendly relations is the ego. Everyone thinks that what ever he or she is doing is right and that others are wrong. Whenever your spouse is in a foul mood and utters unacceptable words, you should not resort to the same. The golden rule is to have patience. Even your spouse will realise his/her mistake, and love cannot thrive under domination either.

When the late Meena Kumari was asked what love was, she said, “You bow down a bit, I bow down a bit.” Once anger takes over, you lose your reason. No decision taken at that moment, can be right. So just try to tide over it and then everything will fall into place. Ensure that your ego does not destroy your relationship - as no home is big enough for two egos. You can always give away a thing, which you have in abundance. If you have anger or jealousy in abudance, you can easily give it to others. If you are unhappy, you can give sorrow to others.

If you can give happiness to others, it means that you are a happy person. So why not make yourself a happy person, by giving happiness to others? Robert Flack, in Better than Gold, has said, “Getting married is easy. Staying married is more difficult. Staying happily married for a lifetime - should rank among the fine arts.”

SACRIFICE

If one thinks more of the partner and less of oneself, 50% of marital problems will be solved automatically. Sacrificing makes one’s life meaningful and makes it easier, when the final call comes.

A selfish attitude makes life more complicated and unhappy. So, as you grow up, learn to sacrifice. Natural happiness comes when something flows out from the body, whether it is urine, sperm, milk, love, affection or kindness. Shiv Khera has written in his bestseller, You can Win, “Whether it is thought, action or behaviour, sooner or later - they return with great accuracy.” Therefore, to lead a happy married life, one should not even think of divorce. Such thoughts will push you into depression. If children are involved, then we are making their lives miserable - for no fault of theirs.

So learn to compromise. Adjust and do not find fault. Keep praising the good qualities in your spouse and enjoy happy married life.

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Michael Douglas is a relationship expert and he writes articles about love, dating, marriage and relationships which can be found at his websites http://www.go-get-guys.com and http://www.womendatingmanual.com.

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Rosen Divorce Coach Shares Lessons Learned on Marriage

December 24th, 2009 by admin | No Comments | Filed in Celebrity Divorces

 

Raleigh, N.C.Rosen Law Firm’s leading Divorce Coach, Jennifer Coleman, MS/ Ed.S. NCC, says since June is the most popular month for marriages, it’s also the most popular month for anniversaries. From her work at Rosen helping couples through their divorce, Coleman shares her insights on how to keep a marriage strong whether you’re celebrating your 5th anniversary or your 50th anniversary.

 

“In any relationship you’re going to have ups and downs with periods of boredom and passion and periods when you feel very close or a bit distant,” says Coleman, who is married with two young children and has a background in marriage and family counseling. “These patterns are natural, but being aware of them and knowing when it’s a good time to check in with your spouse is critical in any marriage, new or old.”

Coleman recently launched a podcast on Stay Happily Married.com, a Web site hosted by Rosen that’s dedicated to providing couples who want to stay together with the resources they need to build a happy marriage. In her podcast she touches on issues that commonly cause problems in a relationship such as lack of communication. She advises couples to set common aspirations in the interest of the marriage instead of making personal goals. She also suggests couples draw out what steps can be taken to repair a relationship if one party is contemplating divorce.

“What being a divorce coach has taught me is you really need to be proactive in your marriage,” says Coleman. “That means meeting with a marriage counselor once every six months or going on a weekend getaway together, but regardless, you need to take the initiative to keep the marriage healthy.”

 

Coleman admits the lessons she’s learned from the mistakes of her clients at Rosen have even helped her avoid problems in her own marriage and says she is a lot more aware of how things are in her own relationship.

 

“As you continue to grow in your marriage, you start taking for granted that your spouse will always be there no matter what,” says Coleman. “While this is a really nice place to be, you need to preserve and manage the relationship, because it takes work no matter how long you’ve been together.”

 

To listen to Jennifer Coleman’s complete podcast, What I Learned About Marriage from Being a Divorce Coach, visit: www.stayhappilymarried.com

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About Rosen Law Firm

Rosen Law Firm is one of the largest divorce firms on the East Coast with offices in Raleigh, Charlotte, and Chapel Hill. Founded in 1990, the firm is dedicated to providing individual growth and support to couples seeking divorce by helping them move forward with their lives. Our staffs of attorneys and other legal professionals expertly address the complex issues of ending a marriage. Our innovative approach acknowledges that divorce is so much more than just a legal matter. Practice areas include child custody, alimony, property distribution, separation agreements, and domestic violence relief. For more information visit: www.rosen.com

 

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Madonnas Divorce

December 23rd, 2009 by admin | No Comments | Filed in Celebrity Divorces

Guy Could Get £150 Million From Madge…

Madonna and Guy Ritchie leaving the ‘RocknRolla’ Premiere After-Party in London,

Guy Ritchie could walk away with a potential £150 million from his divorce settlement with Madonna! Small compensation for seven and a half years of marriage to Madonna, if you ask us.

The couple officially announced the end of their marriage this afternoon. In a statement to the press Madonna’s spokesperson, Liz Rosenberg said:

“Madonna and Guy Ritchie have agreed to divorce after seven-and-a-half years of marriage. They have both requested that the media maintain respect for their family at this difficult time.”

The couple, who own homes in London, Los Angeles and New York, and a 1,200-acre retreat in Wiltshire, are expected to try to come to an agreement on assets before heading to court. The settlement could be one of the biggest in British history, dwarfing the £24 million that was awarded to Heather Mills following her divorce from Paul McCartney.

Lawyers will argue over the exact figure, but Guy could be entitled to half of Madge’s £300 million fortune - that’s a whopping £150 million! Madonna will not be happy - then again, she never is.

Madonna & Guy Divorce - Confirmed!!!

Singer Madonna and Guy Ritchie arrive at the ‘I Am Because We Are’ Premiere at the Palais des Festivals during the 61st International Cannes Film Festival.

Madonna’s spokesperson has now officially confirmed the couple will divorce and we don’t mind telling you we’re shocked to our very core. Seriously, we never saw that one coming. We’ll keep you updated as and when more news reaches us….

Gwyneth Begged Madonna Not To Divorce

Unlike the rest of the British nation, who were smiling and dancing with joy at the thought of Madonna leaving the Country following reports about her imminent  divorce from Guy Ritchie (due to be officially announced later today), Gwyneth Paltrow is simply devastated.

Apparently the Oscar-winning actress has spent the past few months begging her friend not to separate from Guy Ritchie. Gwyneth is said to have advised Madonna to stay with her husband for the sake of their children.

“Gwyneth begged Madonna all summer not to be an idiot and let this marriage fall apart. She just doesn’t think it’s possible that Madonna and Guy would hurt their children by splitting up, and says she has actively advised both of them to put their problems and their egos aside for the sake of the children.”

“But Madonna can be very hard-headed and treats Gwyneth like a younger sister. If Madonna goes through with a divorce it’s going to break Gwyneth’s heart and affect their friendship permanently.”

Hard-headed? More like hard-faced. We spotted the fraught and distressed looking actress leaving a café in London this morning, with a very serious scowl on her chops. Do you think she’s been reading the morning papers?

Madonna & Guy Ritchie Are Divorcing…

Yes that’s right - Guy Ritchie has finally had enough of staring at Madonna’s moany old sour face all day long, so he’s decided to divorce her. Well, that’s what we like to think anyway.

The official line from a source close to the couple is that they “can’t bear to live with the pretence any longer”. After months of speculation, the pair are expected to release an official statement detailing the break-up of their eight-year relationship later today.

Apparently the state of the couple’s marriage initially deteriorated amid huge rows over each other’s work – as both Madge and Guy wanted to spend more time on their careers. A source close to the pair revealed:

“Despite huge attempts to patch things up they both knew deep down that divorce was on the cards. It wasn’t a matter of ‘if’ but ‘when’. They tried hard over the last few months but their fighting was getting out of control.”

Madonna had reportedly wanted to wait until her Sweet & Sticky tour was over in the New Year, to announce the news. But Guy felt that he had simply had enough of Moany Old Wench so he put his foot down, and do you blame him?

Guy is now expected to move out of their home in Marylebone, London, which Madonna owns, and into Ashcombe House, Wiltshire which is his property. It is not clear where their son, Rocco, Madonna’s daughter Lourdes and adopted son David will live.

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Rising Divorce Rates in the UK

December 20th, 2009 by admin | No Comments | Filed in Celebrity Divorces


The number of marriages has also been at a record low. So, there have been fewer divorces because few people have tied the knot. These trends reflect the zeitgeist, the spirit of the age, and it seems that residents of this island are losing faith in the institution of holy matrimony.

Why

There is no simple one-liner to answer why the divorce rate has gone up. This did not happen overnight. In fact, there has been a slow but steady rise in the number of divorces. In fact, England has quite a history of divorces. This is the only country where the monarch’s divorce was the reason behind the birth of the state religious system. Perhaps, it was the other way round. The historians may keep up the debate, but it remains a fact that the establishment of the Anglican Church and the divorce of King Henry VIII are inextricably linked. And the good old king divorces twice, remarrying each time with great promptness. He had, therefore, set a precedence for the tabloid celebrities to follow. Moving away from such juicy diversions, if we try to look at the reasons, we still won’t be able to isolate them. This is a build-up, not the case of sudden occurrence. Let us try to look at some of the most prominent reasons for the high number of divorces.

  • Women’s empowerment is everybody’s favourite reason. It is true that a new generation of women is here, they are self reliant, powerful, and have worked their way to this position. It is not possible for a thirty-five year old CEO, be it a male or female, to find it easy to fit in another human being seamlessly into the folds of everyday life. Somehow, there is nothing called men’s empowerment. This is because men have always been powerful enough to take their own decisions. Those who can strike a balance between home and work and the lifestyle of a new partner are very few, and this is true irrespective of sex.
  • The above argument has two fallacies. Young couples are getting divorced as fast as those who marry late, and the age of marriage has gone up greatly. So the wonderful picture of the ‘career woman’, with no heart under her designer coat lapels as the chief architect of divorce no more holds true. A youthful marriage is no longer the best option for a long term one, and no one wants an unemployed wife baking cakes and playing the piano at home. On the other hand, the country is crying under the burden of single divorced mothers with a child at home, and a job that is barely sufficient to keep body and soul together. If all the working women were so well placed, and were earning so much that they could unthinkingly walk out of a family, this picture would not exist.
  • The working hours in the UK are the longest among all EU nations. Be it directly or indirectly, this does affect a marriage negatively. The long hours make people carry some of their work home. Ultimately, even in the moments of utter serenity in one’s bedroom, the workplace is always present by default. One cannot live with a spouse and boss all the time. This is no one’s fault, we all try to survive, and ultimately the winner is someone who can balance everything properly.
  • There was a time when religion or rather the restrictions imposed by it used to play a major role in the way we led our lives. The concept of divorce is regarded as more or less sinful by all major religions of the world. While religion still continues to play an important role in people’s lives, it has boiled down to a belief in God, and the observance of certain festivals. In a survey conducted by the ONS, the majority of couples in the UK revealed that they consider their marital status a ‘private’ matter outside the jurisdiction of religion.
  • Then, there are a host of other reasons such as the prevalence of chat room dating, the increasingly mobile nature of work, loss of faith in permanent relations, rising cost of bringing up children, etc.

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Your Home, Your Credit, and Your Divorce

December 17th, 2009 by admin | No Comments | Filed in Celebrity Divorces

Divorce is one of the most horrible things a person can endure. There are a plethora of books and support groups out there that deal in the emotional aspects of divorce but what about the financial aspects…especially if you own a home.

Your emotions are making big financial decisions. The person who got hurt wants revenge. And you all know how revenge works…eventually you are the one who ends up being hurt not the person you wanted to hurt in the first place.

The person who caused and/or asked for the divorce feels guilty and therefore may not ask for or get what is rightfully theirs. They also may agree verbally to things they shouldn’t in exchange for a speedy non confrontational divorce.

But the problem with both of these is you are making decisions with the other person in mind instead of yourself. How do I take care of myself and my finances? What can I afford? Should we sell the house? How much debt am I responsible for? Do I have to wait until the divorce is final before I buy again? What if we can’t sell the house?

These are just some of the questions that should be asked. And you can find the answers to all your questions but only if you are in the right frame of mind.

So how do you financially divorce? Well you have to become the CEO of your divorce. You have heard people say about business, “it’s not personal…it’s just business”. This is exactly how your financial divorce should be especially if you own a house or plan to own one.

A CEO would never dream of agreeing to something verbally. They know a verbal agreement does not count and it cannot be enforced. The same goes for your financial divorce. Never ever verbally agree to anything during your divorce. Get everything properly documented.

You may think of a CEO as a bit ruthless and taking more satisfaction out of crushing their competition then anything else. But I do not really think that is what most business owners are.

Yes, that makes headline news and a good plot for a movie but most business owners just want to do what is right for them. They make decisions according to what their business needs are and that is what you should do too.

No emotions allowed…period. But just for the times when you are making financial decisions. When you are not making financial decisions, you can grieve (or celebrate) how you see fit.

And that is the beauty of this. You can curl up on the couch for weeks, stay drunk for weeks, cry to friends or family for weeks, etc and it will not hurt you financially. You made the tough decisions already and now you are free to deal with your emotions however you see fit.

A divorce is supposed to be painful but you get over it and move on. If you make poor financial decisions in the midst of it, you feel the pain of your divorce over and over again. Your poor decisions come back to haunt you and usually at the most inopportune times.

Like, for example, when you meet someone else. What if you wanted to buy a house with someone new but your credit was ruined. How did it get ruined? You moved out of your house with the verbal understanding the other would pay the mortgage.

They did not and now your credit is ruined. And you can’t just explain that away when you want to buy another house. You are responsible if your name is on the mortgage note. You agreed to pay whether you live there or not.

Or, you have a contract to buy a new house but your loan gets denied because you are using child support or alimony to qualify and it has to continue for a certain period of time after you close. If it doesn’t, you do not qualify.

I have seen both of these (and many more) personally and the sad thing is they could have been avoided. The last thing you want is your divorce to linger long after you have gotten on with your life.

And even if you don’t own a house right now, protect yourself and make the right decisions so you can in the future.

Good Luck!

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MySpace, Facebook, GPS and other e-Discovery: Coming Soon to a Texas Divorce Proceeding Near You

December 16th, 2009 by admin | No Comments | Filed in Celebrity Divorces

Like many marriages that end in divorce in Texas, the dissolution of the union between Sarah and Mike Brown (names have been changed to protect the innocent) was not done under the most cordial of circumstances.  The Browns were married for seventeen years, owned an enviable home outside of Dallas, Texas, and were the proud parents of three school-aged children.  Mike had been growing noticeably more distant over the past couple of years and the ideal life they presented in public was a much different reality behind closed doors.  Sarah had a strong suspicion that her husband was having an affair and, being adept at searching her way through the newest pieces of technology, decided to check out Mike’s personal computer when he was out of town on business.  What Sarah Brown found on her husband’s computer hard drive was enough to make her call a divorce lawyer the next morning, and begin an emotional trial that tested the boundaries of the always-evolving legal world of electronic discovery.

Damaging discovery that an attorney can use against an opposing spouse party in a divorce action or child custody proceeding is no longer limited to a trace of lipstick left on a white-shirt collar or a mysterious credit card bill found during a quick rummage through a briefcase.  Today, sophisticated Texas divorce lawyers are more likely to present evidence that comes from cell phone records, Facebook comments, MySpace pages, deleted e-mails, and visits to web sites that were not quite as hidden as planned. 

If divorce clients make the mistake of engaging in behavior that is not conducive to a happy marriage, do not think that they are safe from exposure even while driving in their cars.  Texas divorce attorneys will tell you that even E-Z Pass toll records can be subpoenaed to prove that they were heading somewhere they had no business being.  In addition, a suspicious spouse can attach a Global Positioning System (GPS) device to the family car and later use these recorded routes against your client in court.  These days, the notion that every moment of one’s life is for the public eye does not just apply to celebrities and public figures. However, the attorney needs to be sure that the evidence collected is done in a way that does not violate Federal or State privacy laws.  What is the point of collecting every condemning email or text message if a Federal or Texas State judge decides the documents are inadmissible in court?  Does it matter if the proof of an affair was found on a work computer, a personal laptop, PDA, or a family computer that also is used by the teenage residents for history homework?

There is the dangerous misconception that activities, which take place online, are somehow harmless or at least not as consequential as the same decisions made in real-life.  Flirting with a woman on the computer is not the same as chatting with her in a bar, right?  With that said, you should be aware that social networking sites are taking steps to make sure that their content is accessible in legal situations.  Have you read the fine print before typing a comment to your “friend” on MySpace?  This web site and others like it state that, if legal standards are met, user information can be passed on to law enforcement agencies and legal teams involved in divorces.

Family law attorneys who are fighting a child custody battle also scour the internet looking for possible electronic discovery.  All that a lawyer needs to find is a few photos of a minor child smoking pot or drinking alcohol posted on a web site and charges of being an unfit parent can be substantiated.  Let the words of Dallas family attorney Mary Jo McCurley serve as a warning, “For a lawyer, it’s almost like a ‘ha’ moment. It’s kind of fun when you see something that you can use as evidence [against] the opposing party.”  Online activities are just as serious as those in the “real world” and, to the absolute delight of opposing legal counsel, electronic behavior is recorded and never, ever goes away. 

Lawmakers and courts at all levels of state and federal government have been scrambling to keep up with the ever-increasing series of questions that new technology brings.  What evidence can and should be admissible in court?  In what form or predicate should the attorney present the evidence?  When is the line protecting the right to privacy crossed?  Through amendments to the Federal Rules of Civil Procedure on December 1, 2006, Congress enacted the primary guidelines used to answer such questions and others on the federal level.  Through Rule 34(a), Congress added electronically stored information (ESI) as a category of discoverable information.  To ensure that this amendment maintained its relevance as new technologies are invented, ESI was defined to be “writings, drawings, graphs, charts, photographs, sound recordings, images, and other data or data compilations stored in any medium from which information can be obtained.”  By purposefully using the language, “in any medium,” in the future, the federal courts can require data from technology not even invented yet.  If you have had any difficulty keeping up with the new electronic devices that have come on the market in just the last five years (how many versions of the iPhone and Blackberry are there now?), you can understand why the federal lawmakers left such a wide open door.

The corresponding Federal Rule 34(b) measure, passed at the same time as Federal Rule 34(a), allows the requesting party to determine the form in which evidence is presented.  Maybe a paper printout is enough to meet your goals in a particular instance.  In other circumstances, you may decide that the electronic version must be produced in order to include all background and transmission information.  Often times, the full electronic record will be the preferred choice of attorneys and clients alike as a hard copy will not tell the complete story behind a piece of evidence.  Only with the information that is stored on a computer or other electronic device will you be able to extract the time at which a particular transaction occurred, any information deleted from the current text, or possibly the date and time at which an online correspondence occurred. 

In 2006, Texas was the first state in the country to amend its rules of procedure concerning electronic discovery, and one of only a few states to do so before the federal government made its changes.  With this foresight in establishing some guidelines prior to the procedure set by the federal government, Texas has been able to create a different level of responsibility for evidence than what was determined by federal legislation three years ago.  Ten years ago, in 1999, our state wrote the Texas Rules of Civil Procedure (TRCP) 196.4, which referred exclusively to electronic or magnetic data. This state law requires that the interested party must specifically request each type of electronic data and specify the form in which the interested party wants the data produced.  The responding party may state that the request for retrieval of particular data or information itself is not reasonable, or at least object to the form in which its presentation is requested.  If a Texas court orders that the electronic discovery must be made available, the requesting party is responsible for paying the costs to have the information prepared.  This detail, known as the “mandatory cost shifting position” is an important legal point for both clients and their attorneys to know.  With Rule196.4 at their disposal, opposing counsel will work to prove the requests to be unreasonable and you will be stuck with the cost of production.  The director of the Institute for the Advancement of the American Legal System, Rebecca Love Kourlis, has noted that before the prevalence of e-Discovery, five percent of divorce cases actually went to trial.  That number has fallen to two percent, mostly because the plaintiff fears the costs that would be associated with gathering e-Discovery evidence.

If you are a family law attorney who is assisting a client through emotional and difficult legal circumstances, I encourage you to be as creative as possible when determining possible requests for electronic discovery.  The most effective and proactive participants in divorce proceedings will test the boundaries in this still-uncertain area of law.  Some divorce lawyers have even hired investigators with digital forensic tools to do some electronic snooping for their clients.  Chances are, if the suspicion is strong, the electronic evidence will be found.  As Gateano Ferro, president of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, shared in an interview, “In just about every case now, to some extent, there is some electronic evidence.  It has completely changed our (legal) field.”  Just ask former Detroit mayor Kwame Kilpatrick how damaging a flirtatious chat on a Blackberry can be to one’s marriage and professional standing.  All financial records certainly should be on the table—items as small as romantic dinners and payment for hotel rooms to a larger issue like entire accounts that were kept secret may have relevance in establishing a divorce settlement.  You should request every text message ever sent on a cell phone.  If or until the courts decide that messages sent to an individual’s Facebook page cannot be accessed due to a violation of our privacy laws, get a copy of every word typed!  Does your spouse have an online calendar program, such as those offered through Google or Microsoft Outlook, which lists daily appointments?  If this site shows that he was supposed to be at little Johnny’s baseball game at 4:00 pm but you have witnesses to prove otherwise, you can make the case that your spouse has priorities other than his children.   Of course, in light of the Texas law detailed earlier, make sure you have constructed convincing arguments that all of the material you need is reasonable in both its content and requested format.                 

When it comes to electronic discovery and the Texas legal system, there are still many more questions than established areas of agreement.  Divorce attorneys, when they search for case law to be used as binding or persuasive precedent concerning admissibility of electronic evidence, find only a short list of documents to review.  And, with new technology emerging every day that is capable of storing financial records, personal conversations, and searches of web sites that are far from G-rated, family law judges can expect that every new estranged couple that comes before them in a courtroom brings the possibility of unchartered territory concerning evidence and what rightfully belongs on the public record.  While the general statutes for the submission of electronic discovery have been written on both the federal and state level, the intentionally broad language included in the amendments will mean that difficult judgment calls should be expected for some time to come.  Only time will tell how our judicial system decides to weigh an individual’s right to privacy versus the right of an accuser to have all possible evidence at his or her disposal.    

When the issues are as emotionally difficult as those that often surround divorce and child custody cases, legal counsel that can guide a client through the process is even more crucial.  Electronic discovery is now playing a critical role in more than 75% of divorce cases and, with new ways of hiding and revealing secrets developing all the time, an attorney versed in electronic discovery may very well have the opportunity to break new ground in the courtroom.  In ten years, the case law and precedents surrounding electronic discovery will likely be well established by the courts.  For now, however, this subject is certainly the “Wild West” of the legal arena.  So warn your clients to be mindful of their text messages, their Facebook friends, and their online banking records.  Better yet, tell them to be more mindful of maintaining a strong marriage so that there is never a need for an attorney to subpoena their hard drive in the first place. http://www.belolaw.com

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Tony R. Bertolino is the managing partner at Bertolino LLP with law offices located in Austin, Houston and San Antonio, Texas. A member of the Trial and Appellate Litigation Team, Mr. Bertolino’s practice is devoted largely to complex transactions, commercial litigation, business law, entertainment law and family law matters. You can read more about Mr. Bertolino at www.belolaw.com

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The Myth Of The High Rate Of Divorce

December 14th, 2009 by admin | No Comments | Filed in Celebrity Divorces

This past year my wife and I celebrated our 25th anniversary. It is the second marriage for both of us and the relationship has only grown stronger over the years, teaching me more about love and trust and dependence then I ever imagined. Reaching this special “silver moment” spurred me to look around and think about the number of friends we have who also have great second marriages and led me to question the alleged statistic that 60+% of second marriages end in divorce. I also thought about how many friends we have who are still in their original marriages and appear to be very happy. Thus, I decided it was time to do some research on divorce rates.

In the process of preparing for this article, I learned what I had long suspected. The commonly quoted numbers are overstated myths, the more accurate numbers reflect complex factors, and that our society really has two very separate divorce rates, a lower rate (by half) for college-educated women who marry after the age of 25 and a much higher rate for poor, primarily minority women who marry before the age of 25 and do not have a college degree (most of the research focused on women; the little I read about men suggested similar outcomes).

The Statistics:

A false conclusion in the 1970s that half of all first marriages ended in divorce was based on the simple but completely wrong analysis of the marriage and divorce rates per 1000 people in the U.S. A similar abuse of statistical analysis led to the conclusion that 60% of all second marriages ended in divorce. These errors have had a profound impact on attitudes about marriage in our society and it is a terrible injustice that there wasn’t more of an effort to get accurate data (essentially only obtainable by following a significant number of couples over time and measure the outcomes) or that newer, more accurate and optimistic data isn’t being heavily reported in the media.

It is now clear that the divorce rate in first marriages probably peaked at about 40% for first marriages around 1980 and has been declining since to about 30% in the early 2000s. This is a dramatic difference. Rather than view marriage as a 50-50 shot in the dark it can be viewed as a having 70% likelihood of succeeding. But even to use that kind of generalization, i.e., one simple statistic for all marriages, grossly distorts what is actually going on.

The key is that the research shows that starting in the 1980s education, specifically a college degree for women, began to create a substantial divergence in marital outcomes, with the divorce rate for college-educated women dropping to about 20%, half the rate for non-college-educated women. Even this is more complex, since the non-college educated women marry younger and are poorer than their college grad peers. These two factors, age at marriage and income level, have strong relationships to divorce rates; the older the partners and the higher the income, the more likely the couple stays married. Obviously, getting a college degree is reflected in both these factors.

Thus, we reach an even more dramatic conclusion: That for college educated women who marry after the age of 25 and have established an independent source of income, the divorce rate is only 20%!

Of course, this has its flip side, that the women who marry younger and divorce more frequently are predominately Black and Hispanic women from poorer environments. The highest divorce rate, exceeding 50%, is for Black women in high poverty areas. These women clearly face extraordinary challenges and society would do well to find ways to reduce not just teen pregnancies but early marriages among the poor and develop programs that train and educate the poor, which will not only delay marriage but provide the educational and financial foundation that is required to increase the probability of a marriage being successful. Early marriage, early pregnancy, early divorce is a cycle of broken families that contributes significantly to maintaining poverty. The cost to our society is enormous.

Here is some additional data about divorce in first marriages before moving on to the limited data available about second marriages. Divorce rates are cumulative statistics, i.e., they don’t occur at a single moment in time but add up over the years of marriage and do so at different rates. After reviewing numerous sources, it appears that about 10% of all marriages end in divorce during the first five years and another 10% by the tenth year. Thus, half of all divorces are within the first ten years. (Keep in mind this is mixing the disparate college-non-college group rates.) The 30% divorce rate is not reached until the 18th year of marriage and the 40% rate is not reached until the 50th year of marriage! Thus, not only is the rate of divorce much lower than previously thought but at least half of all divorces occur within the first ten years and then the rate of divorce slows dramatically. Since the divorce rate for women married by 18 is 48% in the first ten years and that group, once again, is primarily poor, minority women, the rate for educated couples is much less during those first ten years.

No wonder the divorce rate in Massachusetts is the lowest in the country. We have the highest percentage of college graduates. That explains why I have so many first marriage friends!

Finding meaningful data about the divorce rates for second marriages was difficult. But knowing that the rate for first marriages has been grossly overstated and poorly understood for decades suggested a likely similar outcome for the data on second marriages. One report indicated that the divorce rate for remarried, white women is 15% after three years and 25% after five years. This ongoing study indicated a definite slowing of the rate over time but did not have enough years measured to draw more long-term conclusions. However, it did indicate that the same factors with first divorces were at play here. Age, education, and income levels were also highly correlated with the outcomes of second marriages. For example, women who remarried before the age of 25 had a very high divorce rate of 47%, while women who remarried over the age of 25 only had a divorce rate of 34%. The latter is actually about the same for first marriages and likely also would prove to be an average of different rates based socioeconomic factors. Thus, my take on this limited amount of data is that divorce rates for second marriages may not be very different than those for first marriages. So my small sample of friends, who remarried older, had college degrees, and joint incomes, is probably not a distorted view of the success rate of second marriages.

Cohabitation:

In the course of gathering information about divorce rates, I came across a few articles describing the growing frequency of couples choosing cohabitation over marriage. I don’t have any figures that I consider accurate enough to report on the percentage of cohabitating couples but a July 24, 2007 Boston Globe article on cohabitating parents sheds some light and raises some serious concerns about this trend.

I must admit a bias here. From my professional experience, I believe cohabitating couples are afraid of the commitment that marriage requires. Certainly a piece of this is what I stated at the beginning of this article, that the myth of the divorce rate has placed a dark cloud over the institution of marriage. The reason for my concern is the following data reported in the Globe article. There is a marked increase in births to cohabitating couples, up from 29% in the early 1980s to 53% in the late 1990s. When you compare what has happened to those relationships when the child is two years old, 30% of the cohabitating couples are no longer together while only 6% of the married couples are divorced. This is another serious societal problem as it contributes to the U.S. having the lowest rate of all Western countries, 63%, of children being raised by both biological parents.

In addition, the general data suggests that cohabitating couples break up at twice the rate of married couples. Of course, this kind of simple statistic hides many complex factors with regard to who actually constitutes the population of cohabitating couples and the likelihood that many choose to live together with no real intention of permanence. However, my main point here is the concern that many couples may be choosing cohabitation over marriage because they actually believe that the institution of marriage is unhealthy and too risky, a conclusion that my review of divorce rates strongly disputes.

Conclusion:

The historical belief that 50% of all marriages end in divorce and that over 60% of all second marriages end in divorce appears to be grossly overstated myths. Not only is the general divorce rate most likely to have never exceeded 40% but the current rate is probably closer to 30%. A closer look at even these lower rates indicate that there are really two separate groups with very different rates: a woman who is over 25, has a college degree, and an independent income have only a 20% probability of her marriage ending in divorce; a woman who marries younger than 25, without a college degree and lacking an independent income has a 40% probability of her marriage ending in divorce.

Thus, factors of age, education, and income appear to play a significant role in influencing the outcome of marriages and that for the older, more educated woman, getting married is not a crap shoot but, in fact, it is highly likely to produce a stable, lifelong relationship.

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Dr. Heller is a clinical psychologist, now retired, who specialized in providing services to children, families, and couples since 1968. He has written over 150 columns about parenting and marriage which are available on his website, http://www.drheller.com.

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Ten Tips for Dads Celebrating Birthdays and Holidays After Divorce

December 8th, 2009 by admin | No Comments | Filed in Celebrity Divorces

Holidays and birthdays are extra reminders that the family is no longer as it once was, and can be especially difficult during the first years after a separation. However, like much about divorce and its aftermath, if you work at it, you can create new traditions and rituals that will make that time enjoyable again.

Because these times are so special, some divorced families find themselves thrown together again every holiday, if only because it’s more practical than ferrying the kids all over town. Often, it’s one big happy family with new spouses and children. However, don’t be surprised if this doesn’t happen right away, no matter how logical it seems. Time may be required to patch over differences and hard feelings and you also might find it easier to be away.

1. Plan Ahead.

With all the hoopla of the holidays, it won’t be easy, but you really have to plan, now that you’re trying to manage your family’s time from afar. Plan way in advance so that your ex-wife doesn’t feel under pressure. You’ll get far more if you plan early, try not to be pushy, and be extra communicative during this time.

2. Use the holidays as an extra reminder that “if you don’t have anything nice to say…”

The holidays, a birthday event, or even a family wedding, are not the times to dredge up bad feelings or statements of ill will, even if you’re being goaded into responding. Make a game of it and either walk away or just smile, but don’t get in a tangle, no matter how tempting. Try to make positive statements about your ex and keep the conversation away from curious questions about their “other celebration.” Don’t forget to also remind and help them shop for your ex-wife and her family.

3. Keep your promises.

Around holidays, be extra careful to follow up on the plans you make with your kids.

4. Be flexible in your planning.

Try to head off difficulties by being ready to change plans due to changes by your spouse or just in the situation. The best thing divorced dads can do is be extra-sensitive to the season or birthday and try to be ready for changes.

You may find yourself having to give in to letting your kids spend “your time” with you ex-wife, for example.

5. Allow your kids to have two birthday or two holidays.

There’s nothing wrong with doubling up on the celebrations. Just ensure that you communicate well in advance and that you involve everyone in the planning. Re-creating the traditions and rituals and choosing your own, reinforces the idea that the children now have two strong homes.

6. Involve the kids when you plan.

Whenever it’s reasonable, let your children help make the choices about when and where to celebrate the holidays, and with whom. But before asking their opinions, make it clear that all plans must be cleared with everybody involved. This will help teach your kids to be part of the collaboration between you and your ex.

7. Don’t spoil your kids during the holidays.

Don’t feel guilty and over-indulge your kids to “make up” for the divorce, or worse, to buy their affections during the holiday. Despite the pain of divorce and flaring emotions, your kids will always be your kids. And, likewise, you need to always act like their father despite the change in situation.

8. Make the best of your new family during the holidays.

If you remarry or enter a long term relationship with someone who has children of her own, make sure to discuss how you will incorporate your children’s traditions with hers. Involve kids from both families to make sure you understand what is important and that no one feels left out.

Since birthdays and holidays are so important to kids and adults, you’ll have to be extra flexible to incorporate everyone’s feelings.

If you remarry or get into a committed relationship and your new partner has children, they will undoubtedly have their own ideas about how to celebrate holidays and birthdays. Discuss with your new partner ways that you can bring together the children from both sides of the family, and get all the kids involved with planning what you’ll do together and incorporating everyone’s traditions. Birthdays and holidays are special times for you and your kids. Communicate clearly and stay calm and flexible, and your extended family will have something to celebrate.

9. Don’t forget to take off yourself if you end up spending some of the holiday alone.

Holidays are difficult for many people because they trigger memories of better times or of hard times. That’s why you should make special plans. And, if you are going to have free time, arrange to be with supportive friends or family.

10. Create new traditions for your new family.

Don’t duplicate the exact rituals that you had with your ex-wife. Instead, create new traditions that involve the kids and are representative of your new family. It’s not time to throw the baby out with the bath water, but you’ll be much happier with your own ideas than trying to re-create the past in a new situation.

As you will notice in many of our Ten Parenting Tips, planning and communication are key to enjoyable holidays. Experts strongly recommend crafting a parenting agreement with your ex-wife . This agreement should cover where the kids will spend holidays and birthdays. If you can’t agree on these issues, you will be forced to argue over the same points at every holiday. And, you’ll inevitably stir up expectations and disappointments with your kids. An always-renegotiable “parenting agreement” can go a long way toward heading off many of these disagreements.

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